If I Can’t Accept You at Your Worst, Then Maybe You Should Stop Being So Horrible
"Shielded from failure, insulated from criticism, covered in emotional bubble wrap, our kids are venturing out into the world with little discipline and even less humility. You can see this manifest in many arenas, but I think it’s most pronounced in the way we approach relationships…
it reminded me of a meme we’ve all seen a thousand times… the original quote, widely attributed to Marilyn Monroe, is even more vapid and nauseating when taken in its full context.:
I’m selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve my best.”
Newsflash: It’s not OK to be selfish, impatient, and out of control. These traits while common, are UNacceptable. They should not be accepted, least of all by the people you claim to love. The onus is on YOU to change your behavior and your attitude, not on them to ‘handle it.’ Are you such a gem that they should thank God for the opportunity to be emotionally abused by you, if only it earns them a chance to bask in the glow of your superiority?
Should our selfishness, impatience, and weakness preclude us from being loved? No. But should these traits be ‘accepted?’ should they be ‘received with approval or favor?’ Should our loved ones ‘consent’ to them?
Enormous, loud, screaming no.
Love is a transformative force, and if you want to experience it you better be ready to change in every way imaginable. What kind of pathetic and dreary goal is that anyway — just wanting to be ‘accepted,’ tolerated, put up with? That’s not why we’re put on this planet. Life is not about gaining ‘acceptance.’ Life is change.”
So proud of my mother for doing her own research after I sent her that meme. A sign she hung in her car window.
Is this true?
Not only is it true, it gets worse. The Susan G Komen For The Cure Foundation has actually successfully sued “competing” charities, because (paraphrasing) their “message or branding was infringing.”
You read that correctly: they took money that people had donated to cure cancer, and hired attorneys with it, to sue ANOTHER group of people trying to find a cure for cancer, who, in turn, had to us their donated money to hire their own legal counsel to defend themselves.
Yeah signal boost because not enough people know about this and seriously FUCK SUSAN G. KOMEN THEY ARE THE ACTUAL WORST
(reblogged in honor of my mother, who died of breast cancer, 11/13/97)